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January 24, 2007

3:47 PM

Would you rather give the world a hug, or...

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Welcome to the inaugural post of my new blog!  Thanks for stopping by, and I hope you will find fodder here for your heart, your mind and your spirit. 

 

My constant challenge as a human is to live each day with as much love as I can.  Some days, that’s very easy to do.  Others… not so much.  As a deeply flawed inhabitant of this planet, I struggle with a lot of issues.  My big one is anger.  You too?  It’s one of the 7 deadlies for a reason.   But I found inspiration recently, in a most unlikely place, which has helped me work with it.

 

While doing a little inspirational research on philanthropy, I came across an interview with acerbic Irish rock star and mega-humanitarian Bob Geldof.  Now, I happen to revere the man and all that he has accomplished for the betterment of humanity.  This is a person of extraordinary character, whose work and commitment is an enormous inspiration for people all over the world.  But from a personality perspective... Mother Theresa he’s not.  Bob Geldof is angry, and he admits it.

 

In the aforementioned interview, Geldof discussed the difference between himself and his friend Bono, another Irish rocker who has dedicated extraordinary time and effort towards changing the world for the better.  Geldof said, “Bono, as we all know, is in love with the world.  He's enamoured by it.  I'm enraged by it. He wants to give the world a great big hug; I want to punch its lights out."

  

Genius.

 

When I first came across this quote, I read it to Peter, my Irish husband.  We both laughed about it at first – didn’t this beautifully represent two aspects of the Irish character?  But then I started really thinking about it and came to this conclusion: Geldof’s quote was pure genius because it represents two aspects of the human character, regardless of ethnic or cultural origin.

 

And it illustrates my own personal conundrum.  I am, at turns, both enamored of the world and enraged by it.  Most of the time, I really want to give the world a big hug, but sometimes… I definitely want to punch its lights out.  And it angers me even more during those times when well-meaning New Agey friends tell me that I’m not allowed to be angry and I need to control my wrath and I need to not speak out about the injustices in the world unless I can do so in a “spiritual” way, whatever that means.  Then, the anger turns into guilt and shame and all of those negative emotions and it’s pretty much a downward spiral from there.

 

Proposition: How do those of us who are trying to embrace a philosophy of love deal with our anger over the injustices that drive us to the brink?

 

 I’m willing to bet that a lot of you reading this can completely relate.  Because I think this isn’t just my conundrum, it’s a human conundrum.  We all wrestle with our anger over various issues in our own lives as well as out there in the world.

 

But the lesson I am taking from looking at Geldof’s example is this: anger is a powerful emotion, and when anger is channeled properly, it can be an irresistible force used to positive affect.  Rather than simply ranting at the world – or worse, allowing the anger to eat you up inside by suppressing it – find a way to utilize it and work for change.  Bob Geldof motivated the entire entertainment industry, and ultimately millions of global citizens, not only to care but to take action about the plight of suffering human beings.  He did this by using his anger - and making it work in a dynamic way.   

 

Resolved:  Anger can be channeled into a powerful force for positive change.

 

You don’t have to be an activist to apply this idea (although it’s a nice thing to be and the world needs more of them, so maybe you should consider it if such a thing appeals to you).  But the theory applies to our basic day-to-day stuff just as much as it applies to world crises.  Something pisses you off?  How can you channel that anger into some kind of positive energy to make changes in your life - or the world?   Think about how much adrenaline builds inside of you when you are angry about something.  What if you can take that same energy and re-route it, use it towards a personal goal that you may have?

 

Now, in keeping with my desire to live “The Nazarene Way” – which (for those of you who are new here) I believe is the pure form of spirituality as taught by Jesus and Mary before dogma and politics muddied it all up – I have to ask myself this question: What happens when we look to Jesus for examples on anger?  Did he always turn the other cheek?  Maybe not.  What emotion was Jesus displaying when he turned over the moneylender’s and merchant’s tables in the Temple?  In his time, it was seen as violent, as an act of vandalism.  Can’t we make a strong argument that Jesus may have been angry when he did this?

 

Is it possible that the Prince of Peace sometimes wanted to punch the world’s lights out, too?  I believe it is.  I believe that Jesus tried to give us his humanity so that we could relate to him that much more.  So if even Jesus lost his temper at times, perhaps we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves over our imperfections when we feel an emotion that is decidedly unspiritual.  For me, and I would bet for many people, anger is a most difficult demon to tame.  But in the interest of living with more love, I am going to really try to channel it into a force for justice, charity and truth.  And I hope to do some of that right here on this site.

 

I invite you to join me in these blog sessions as often as you see fit.  And while I sincerely hope that what I write will make you want to give me a big hug, I apologize in advance if it sometimes makes you want to punch my lights out.

 

With LOVE,

 

- KDM


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77 Comment(s).

Posted by Mary:

My goodness - are you bored, so you need something else to do with your time???
I love the idea of you blogging! And this inaugural blog is fantastic - anger is a tough one for me. I fly off the handle quite easily - and did it several times today for no good reason at all! I'm a work in progress! :)
love, Mary
January 24, 2007 @ 5:07 PM

Posted by Ian Clarke:

Well done, anger is the toughest of emotions - I am angry that I get angry when pushed too hard - but it is a normal emotion, which I am sure that Yeshua did experience as you outlined. Keep it up.
January 24, 2007 @ 5:25 PM

Posted by Michael in Cincinnati:

I am a BraveJournal member pending receipt of my user name and password.

Quoting from KCM's first post, "...it illustrates my own personal conundrum. I am, at turns, both enamored of the world and enraged by it. Most of the time, I really want to give the world a big hug, but sometimes… I definitely want to punch its lights out."

That's been my personal problem, also, my whole life long. I want to save the world, yet I often want to shatter it! Even today, this day, that Love and Anger, that conundrum came out in me no less than a dozen times. Lucy of Charles Schultz' "Peanuts" in her "Psychiatrist" role once said, "I love mankind, its people I can't stand!" And "they" say you can't laugh at "something" if you can't see yourself in the same "situation". I laughed my butt off when I read that "Peanuts" cartoon once Sun-Day morning many years ago.:):):)
January 24, 2007 @ 5:37 PM

Posted by Michael in Cincinnati:

Sorry Kathleen, I meant "KDM" not "KCM". My eyes are getting tired now and my fingers on the keyboard are getting sloppy too. Also I misspelled "one" as "once".
January 24, 2007 @ 5:45 PM

Posted by Ruth M:

Props to you Kathleen! Great begining. Anger is definatly a difficult emotion to deal with. One that I'm faced with more than I'd like. Everyone is angry about something. What a wonderful world it would be if we all channeled that anger into positive change instead of forcing that negativity onto others through violent means. I also agree that Jesus was angry when he turned over the tables. I believe that it's perfectly acceptable to be angry about injustices and lies. And, that we can choose to channel that anger and make a difference by not tolerating it. If we see those injustices in life we all have the ability to make a stand for the truth and play our hand in the change that may make the world a better place. I hope you continue this blog and all the amazing work you are doing. Although I'm not sure how your finding the time. Even through all the anger that I'm sure you face every day from those who choose to use anger in a negative way.
With Love,
Ruth
January 24, 2007 @ 6:00 PM

Posted by Kalle:

Hey Kathleen, I was just talking to Joe about this same thing at dinner tonight! Told him I had a conundrum! Too funny. He basically told me not to be so hard on myself, that I am only human. It was nice to come on line and see you are saying the same thing. In trying to live the "WAY" I sometimes expect to much of myself. Thanks for the words of encouragement suggestion of re routing the anger! Going to try.
BIG HUGS to you,
love Kalle
January 24, 2007 @ 6:45 PM

Posted by glenn flanagan:

You put it beautifully, Kathleen. I always found some sort of comfort in the example of Jesus' anger in the temple as an example of the human condition. I also believe that all in all, people ARE good and they all desire a peaceful world. Unfortunately, governments are the problem and do not represent individuals properly and , therefore, they CAUSE frustration, anger and violence. But this is a time of change... a threshold of a unified world of love, peace, equality and justice. Isn't it great to be a part of it? Thank you for your inspiration and leadership. Glenn and John :)
January 24, 2007 @ 6:45 PM

Posted by Kathy M.:

:P Dear Kathleen, I'm with Bob- I would like to punch somebody's lights out but my anger is mostly directed toward governments who cause the suffering in humanity. But besides anger unfortunately I feel much sadness and fear because when you look back in history how often do you come across a time of peace and unconditional love? unfortunately, i haven't found one yet and i don't see one anytime soon. But a big thank u to you and everyone else who believes in educated against ignorance and letting people like me have hope that there is something in humanity worth loving. Apparently, Jesus and Mary saw it- I hope to see more of it.
January 25, 2007 @ 8:16 AM

Posted by João Suzart, Brasil:

Perdoe-me mas não sei escrever quase nada em inglês, espero que consiga me entender ou peça ajuda de um tradutor.Seu livro mudou a minha vida..todos esses personagens historicos foram revistos em minha análise e subiram sensivelmente na minha escala!Gostaria de lhe agradecer por essa experiencia fantástica, única!Se puder me envie novidades sobre livros porvindouros, e que eles possam estar no Brasil sempre!um grande abraço e parabens pelo seu trabalho!:)
January 25, 2007 @ 10:00 AM

Posted by julia:

Just finished your book and loved it. Looking forward to the next one. Re anger-I once heard Bill Coffin(chaplain at Yale,civil rights and Vietnam era activist and later rector at the Riverside Church in NYC)say that he thought it was too bad people tended to see Jesus as always kind and gentle when if you looked into the gospels you would find he was more often than not an angry young rabbi.It is natural that as humans we will feel anger-it's what we do with it that counts!In the face of injustice isn't it a good sign if we feel "righteous anger"?
January 25, 2007 @ 1:17 PM

Posted by LBL, Canada:

Bravo, Kathleen on a brilliantly written and inspired work. The truth is elegant in it's simplicity and resonates in my spirit.
I believe Jesus and Mary both experienced and demonstrated "righteous anger". I define righteous anger as a deep discontent with anything that is a contradiction to the will of our Creator, God. For instance, Jesus' display of anger in the temple, is directed toward the behaviour of greed and disdain as demonstrated by the moneylenders and those who rejected the unclean. To NOT be outraged or angered by these behaviours would be unchristian, unlike Christ in both attitude and being.
So, my solution to the stated dilemma is to recast the problem......that is, to see it as I believe Christ would have seen it....with eyes and ears that see and hear righteously (as God sees). Let us be angry at all behaviour that is unloving, and let us be moved to correct it. Let us also be moved enough to teach the brother or sister a better way of being than the one that was demonstrated. It is one thing to correct the behaviour, it is entirely another courageous thing to offer a new teaching, in love, to the offender. This is the very reason for which Christ was crucified, Righteous Anger turned into loving action in an attempt to teach the truth to all.
Jesus quoted from Isaiah 61 while reading in the temple, "The spirit of the Lord is upon me, because the Lord has anointed me;
he has sent me to bring good news to the oppressed,
to bind up the brokenhearted, and to proclaim liberty to the captives, and release to the prisoners."
Truly this was the mission of Christ and it required Righteous Anger, a holy discontent with the status quo, to pull it off!!
Kathleen, you must have felt the same in order to write the truth in the face of your detractors. Bravo, you are made in the image and likeness of our God! A holy discontent, a rigteous anger is our in heritance. No dilemma here!! ;) LBL
January 25, 2007 @ 2:38 PM

Posted by Lisette:

Hi Kathleen!
Thanks for putting this together. Don't know how you find the time!

My thoughts...
Anger we feel is not necessarily our own.
There's a collective component to strong emotions. Like sea creatures all share the ocean water as a medium in which they swim, and are affected by currents and tides, we land creatures all seem to live and express ourselves in a sea of emotion, in which there are also currents and tides that can affect us individually or as groups.

Fish are not the ocean (though it flows around and through them); as individuals, we are not the emotions we feel and express. But sometimes folks forget this and get "flooded"!

It seems easier to avoid getting flooded if we realize that the anger we feel is not central to our individual beings, but is more like a vagrant visitor "passing through" the neighborhood, who we are not obliged to entertain.

It seems that untamed emotions (anger, fear, etc.) exist collectively across a population, and are infectious by nature. It's like they float around like currents and tides (or the third wave of Nazism) in the emotional atmosphere, and given the opportunity or group dynamics, affect some individuals or crowds!
Example: mob mania: how an otherwise civil group of people, can become a manic crowd, once the "bug" of anger or rage infects them.
Or laughter being contagious (on the bright side!)

Some folks "swim upstream", against the flow of the crowd and resist becoming overwhelmed or intoxicated by the mob emotion.
The easiest targets of emotional mayhem seem to be those who "identify" with their emotions.

Also, it's like the weather; anger, like a storm, gradually brews, gathers in strength and then hits towns, individual property, etc. First, it seems to brood in the atmosphere, then precipitate.

Seeds of anger (and fear), given the chance, take root in individuals and nations, collectively.

It's as though we're living in a primordial soup of free-floating emotions looking
January 25, 2007 @ 3:00 PM

Posted by Anonymous:

Sorry, my post got cut off...here is the rest of it.
continued...
It's as though we're living in a primordial soup of free-floating emotions looking for a way in... That may not always be bad, if we are in control of the emotion and can utilize it as any current of energy...charitably, of course.

Emotions seem to infect people through the autonomic nervous system, and then go on to affect the endocrine system, creating hormonal/chemical surges that in turn are picked up by others beneath the threshold of consciousness. Animals and humans "smell" fear, hate, anger and their endocrine systems respond accordingly. It is easy to see how a strong emotion can sweep over a crowd! Or how nationalistic fervor is contagious!
Anger, fear, joy, etc. all have their chemistries as they express themselves through biological beings. (Ocean creatures also communicate over vast distances by giving off chemicals that are then transported through the water. This may be the equivalent of their emotional life.)

The energy dynamics of people relationships sometimes need on/off buttons, or a way to get grounded, or to divert the flow and let it "run off" and taper off. This could be art, music, prayer, dance...anything integrating them with the bigger picture (which of course is Love). Without those "wholly" things, civilization could be toast!

When I feel a strong unpleasant emotion coming on, I find comfort in telling myself that it is not "my" emotion. And since "I am not my emotions", it's up to me whether or not to "entertain" or harbor that emotion.

It's not always easy...especially if the others around me are determined to entertain that emotion and get me involved!

In Peace,
Lisette
January 25, 2007 @ 3:03 PM

Posted by Sharon Bailey:

My own feeling on anger is that it's a secondary emotion, that you get angry when you're embarrassed or hurt or frustrated, etc. I think that's usually the case but sometimes, anger is simply anger. When I see someone mistreated ( even by me) or available help denied to those who need it, some kind of injustice, I get angry. Vibratingly, scowl-faced, didn't-your-mama-teach-you-better, want-to-punch-their-lights-out angry! Those are the things you can change w/ education, compassion, example, volunteerism, charity and love. Those are ways we can channel the anger into productivity.

I find many people, especially young people, have no positive outlet for the emotions that roil within us. The saying gos that familiarity breeds contempt. While this may be true, I find that inactivity also breeds contempt.

With that said, perhaps we can get off our individual and collective duffs and DO something. Do something for yourself. Do something for someone else. DO something for your fellow man!

Namaste, Sharon.
January 26, 2007 @ 8:10 PM

Posted by Wild Rider:

The "Prince of Peace" was not peaceful, and the assault on the temple was not an act committed in a fit of explosive anger. It was the cool, calculated action of a radical rebel.

John 2:15-16, "And making a whip of cords, he drove them all, with the sheep and oxen, out of the temple; and he poured out the coins of the money-changers and overturned their tables. And he told those who sold the pigeons, `Take these things away; you shall not make my Father's house a house of trade.'"

A whip of cords takes a considerable amount of time to braid. The time it took to make this whip belies anger, as does the use of this act to refer to the Psalms:

Origen wrote: "[Heracleon] romances in an extraordinary way; He did not make it, he says, of dead leather. He wished to make the Church no longer a den of robbers, but the house of His Father.... How, too, could the disciples, if the house was not that of the same [Hebrew] God with the God of Christ, have remembered the saying in the sixty-ninth Psalm, 'The zeal of thy house shall devour Me;' for thus it is found in the prophet, and not "hath devoured Me.'... [Heracleon] fails to see the connection of the prophecy in the Psalm."

Jay Raskin commented upon this passage: "It is apparent that in the text that Heracleon is reading, it is the crucified/expelled merchants who declare, 'The zeal of thy house hath devoured me.'"

Rod Green wrote: "The numerous collaborations between Samaritans and Judeas highlighted within Josephus seems to dispel the widely argued case that the Samaritans and Judeas were blood enemies. Their differences were largely theological and probably related specifically to the Temple culture itself....In Mark, Jesus has great success among the non-Jews, and he is quite anti-Temple, not only instigating violence on the Temple Mount and calling it a den of thieves, but also predicting (after the fact) the destruction of the Temple."

Dr. Attila Csanyi wrote: "...The author [of Luke] also tells
January 28, 2007 @ 7:42 AM

Posted by Carrie:

Hello Kathleen,
and thanks for your endless efforts!
I'm finding it hard to put my feelings into my own words, so I'll say ditto to what LBL in Canada wrote and add this quoted passage from 'Reflections for Ragamuffins', titled No Call To Be A Doormat:
"...A young female disciple of Jesus wanted to develop a spirit of compassion for all human beings. But when she went to the supermarket to gather her groceries, she found her compassion sorely tested by an assistant manager who would subject her to unwelcome caresses. One dreary rainy day she could tolerate it no longer and began to shout angrily at the manager. To her mortification she saw Jesus, who was reaching for a jar of peanut butter on the shelf and quietly observing her behavior. Shamefaced she came and stood before the Lord, expecting to be rebuked for her anger.
"What you should do," Jesus counseled her, "is to fill your heart with as much loving-kindness as you can muster. Then whack him over the head with your umbrella."
The wisdom to discern when to turn the other cheek and when to raise the umbrella comes only from listening the heartbeat of the Great Rabbi".

PLL, Carrie
January 28, 2007 @ 4:11 PM

Posted by Amber in Indiana:

I literally just finished your book ten minutes ago... and all I can say is, "thank you." Thank you for publishing a version of the story that makes sense to me - and that resonates in my heart.

As for anger, I'm a really angry woman. It's something I fight against every day! But I've never been a religious person, so instead, I've always looked to my husband (and partner of 14 years) to help me decide if whatever's currently got me upset is worth the energy. And if it is? Well, hell hath no fury like a redhead in full boil!

Thank you again for your wonderful book. I'm going to read some of those books in your recommended list, and see where it takes me...

To the journey!
January 28, 2007 @ 6:32 PM

Posted by Julie Schilling:

It is funny how things find their way to us in the right times- your book- I just finished it in the last hour. Ironically I felt duped and angered by my church- but then that quickly passed because I know I cannot undo what was done, but can choose to react differently to it. That idea alone can change lives. I can now displace my anger to action and share these truths with others. On a more intimate note, it reminds me to change my reactions as a mother when my child doesn't act as I believe he knows he should. Thanks for the reminder that I can redirect that to help mold him to be a more tolerant person by my actions (and reactions)!
January 30, 2007 @ 6:01 PM

Posted by Alexa:

I've enjoyed your book and admire your dedication to your research and your revelations. It's inspiring to reflect on the lives of peoples 2000 years old who continue to speak to the simplest ideals. Not always simple to follow in times of difficulty but in truth we know the right way of behaviour. To become the example of our belief in goodness whether it benefits us personally is to follow in the steps of Jesus. He chose his master in spite of the pain it caused him personally. His life was an example for future generations and we must all become examples of respectability, love, compassion, understanding. It's not always easy to take the high road but we are given the choice to make and to become an example to others. You may not be able to affect the whole world but you can touch one person at a time, as Jesus did, in his ministry, and the movement grows. In 2000 years one person can make a difference. I look forward to your next book.
Best wishes - an Irish girl, also born March 22!
February 2, 2007 @ 9:44 AM

Posted by Andrea:

I think Anger is one of the toughest emotions because it is so hard to control.Yet it also is a necessary and useful emotion for all sorts of reasons and we must express it. I believe there is a theory that unexpressed anger turned inward is a cause of alot of physical ills. So I am a supporter of anger expressed constuctivley and with love and understanding , forgiveness too. At least I try to do this.
February 2, 2007 @ 1:57 PM

Posted by marina:

Me ha encantado que tú, o alguien que se ocupa de tus mensajes me haya respondido por tí. Estoy como ya te dije, encantada con tu libro, y esperando los dos que le tienen que seguir. Aunque la verdad, tal y como acaba, no sé como lo podrás continuar, pero me gustó que fuera a ver a la familia y de paso conociera, al joven que tocaba un instrumento en la calle.
Pasando a otra cosa, me encantaría que me dijeras si has escrito algún otro libro, aunque sea de otro tema diferente, pues a mí me gusta leer de todo.Como siempre, agradecida por tu respuesta ..... besos.... Marina .
February 3, 2007 @ 11:12 AM

Posted by Mónica:

Habrá alguna posibilidad de leer la página en español para poder interpretar mejor los comentarios? Muchas gracias. :-?


Please use http://babelfish.altavista.com/tr to translate.
February 3, 2007 @ 7:45 PM

Posted by Tom:

Anger is an emotion which, unfortunately I would say that nearly if not all humans experience once in a while. The trick I feel, is even while angry don't let it get in the way of your unconditional love towards others. Once we loose our love for other beings that's when it becomes easy to justify such things as ethnic cleansing and other types of hate crimes.:-(
February 8, 2007 @ 11:20 PM

Posted by Sandy Poole-Doyle:

Kathleen, your book, The Expected One was wonderful, I couldn't put it down. Finally the pieces fit, questions are answered and the lies that have been force-fed us for years have been brought into the light. Thank you!!! On the subject of anger, well, most of the time I'd just rather not deal with "humans" at all, then I wouldn't have to worry about getting "angry" but since that's not an option I've had to learn how to deal, so I just take my Zoloft every day :). Really, being angry is part of life, Jesus was here to experience "human" life and that was one of the emotions He had to experience. I for one think He handled Himself very well, I probably would have done much worse knowing what He was here to do for all of mankind and they were acting that way. We cannot control how people treat us, but we can definately choose how to respond and my anger usually helps me get my house really clean :) so by the time I'm done, my home is spotless and I've had time to deal with whatever I was upset about, so usually everyone wins. The key is to control the anger, don't let it control you, I've been in that place and it almost ate me alive, but it didn't hurt the one that I was angry at in the least. It was a hard lesson and I lost years of my life, but when I laid down that anger my life became much better and I've been able to help many people since then. Kathleen please get that next book out, I can hardly wait. With great respect, Sandy
February 9, 2007 @ 9:43 AM

Posted by Doreen:

Anger eats its wielder as much as a sword.

Love can be devouring too...losing your life for others

You say in your book 'choose your master' and I think its truly like that.
Jesus teaches us time and again to love our enemies and forgive 7x77 times was it?
As of braiding taking too long, if the anger is big enough you can stay angry long enough too.

The temple was really important to Jesus as the house of his Father, didnt he warn the weeping women even at his cross not to weep for Him but for the coming destruction of the temple?

People still weep about losing the temple
and the Arc

love always

Doreen
February 11, 2007 @ 3:47 PM

Posted by Macc:

From Tarragona(España).
Tanks Kathleen 2U "inspirado" book.
February 12, 2007 @ 3:29 AM

Posted by Valerie:

Westerners seem to have a hard time with negatives. Yet balance is essential, and our "world out of balance" was assisted by the eradication of the feminine divine, and the devaluation of the feminine in humans,and also our mother earth. For me this lesson applies also to anger. Im not sure the value of anger, though many of you are able to state positive side effects, by channeling your anger. (Want to come clean my house?) What I do believe is: just as wholeness in humanity requires honoring both genders, so wholeness in the human requires finding a way to honor the shadow self: anger, sadness, pain and suffering, negativity etc. etc. To eradicate anger holds some kind of peril, as it upsets balance. Obviously I am still struggling with this concept, but I sense a danger in
putting ourselves out of balance because we don't honor our negative emotions.
February 18, 2007 @ 11:21 AM

Posted by Kathleen Anderson:

Recently I found myself saying, "I used to have an undercurrent of anger all the time." That's when it dawned on me that I don't have anger riding with me all the time anymore, just some of the time. I am profoundly grateful for that progress.

In the first moments of wakefulness I sometimes get these little epiphanies - Waking Wisdom, I call them. One that came a couple of months ago is relevant:

The Devil provides the stick at our backside
While God provides the carrot at out frontside.
When we once and for all grab onto the carrot
We will no longer need the stick.
When we no longer need the stick
It will no longer be there.
Love your enemies and
Pray for them who spitefully use you.

I used to attend a bodywork group where the facilitator was forever telling us to "love the pain/anger/hate/[whatever it was]" I thought he was mistaken and carefully preserved my right to a different opinion. In the past few months I have come to understand that the unpleasant experience has come into my life to teach me something, and as soon as I accept that gift that it brings, it will be gone. So there is a reason to "love the pain," "love our enemies," etc. They're here for a reason. When we no longer need them, they will vanish.

A very good book to read to this end is "A New Earth," by Eckhart Tolle
Kathleen
February 20, 2007 @ 12:07 PM

Posted by Kathleen Anderson:

one. I hope it comes out soon.

As for your tag line, "The Truth Against the World," may I suggest that it's much more productive to be FOR whatever it is you desire, than to be AGAINST anything. A friend of mine recently quoted Mother Theresa to me as having said, "I will never attend an anti-war demonstration, but if you have a peace ralley, I'll be there."

A wise man once said, "Resist not evil." Several thousand years later, that phrase also came to me once as an epiphany. At the time, I thought it was rediculous - "If you don't resist evil, it will take over the world." After some time had passed and I had occasion to reflect on some of my own encounters with evil, I realized those words were good advice. As I look back, my observation is that evil is a parasite which feeds on highly-charged emotions. It will as happily feed on our righteous indignation as on the greed, power and lust of it's perptrators. Hence, I have concluded that when we oppose evil, we empower it. Therefore, our time and energy is much better spent empowering with love and light those outcomes we desire.
Kathleen
February 20, 2007 @ 12:51 PM

Posted by Kerri:

Can't we feel angry and yet still be harmless in how it is expressed? When I feel angry, I am usually avoiding or rejecting a feeling of pain. If I ask myself, what is it I really don't want to feel, I can usually get beyond the anger to what is really bothering me and then talk responsibly about it, not making anyone or any event responsible for my feelings of anger and pain. It is so much easier to talk from this space.:):)
February 20, 2007 @ 7:13 PM

Posted by Carla:

Eu sou brasileira, li O Segredo do Anel e me peguei chorando inumeras vezes, emocionada coma história de Easa e Maria Madalena, de repente me vi muito mais próxima de Jesus, conheci um Jesus humano, uma pessoa real, e passei a ama-lo e respeita-lo muito mais. Estou ansiosa pelos outros livros. Obrigado por me fazer crer!!
February 25, 2007 @ 4:50 PM

Posted by Joe:

My wife and I had a similar discussion the other night... being angry with the world and wanting to make a change. She was talking about how she wanted to make a difference in the world and was it too much? How can a person do such a thing? I told her that she just needs to start with one person - make a difference in their world. Be giving of herself, but without sacrificing herself. It's a small step, but it's a start!
February 26, 2007 @ 11:19 AM

Posted by Anonymous:

:)A couple of things spring to mind when I get angry or when I am thinking about anger. They seem to help me make the right choices about what to do with this very strong emotion. One is Ephesians 4:26-27 "Be angry. But do not let your anger cause you to sin". This reminds me that being angry in itself is very normal and "ok". It's the choices we make about what we do with our anger that determine the outcome. The other is something I heard from Gary Zukav "Anger is fear announced". So when I am feeling angry I ask myself what it is I am afraid of and that always seems to take me down a more constructive and productive path. Of course I stumble on the path a lot but like I said these two quotes keep me honest and pointed in the right direction.
March 5, 2007 @ 6:24 PM

Posted by Taffy Todd:

I've only juzt finished your book and it has transported me to other times and other places that have felt so real! But most amazingly, it has brought me back to considering Christianity as a part of my life. It has been a long time. I have never lost my faith in God, however I was not sure about being a Christian. But, the Way--now that makes sense, that's the way (unintended pun) I always thought Jesus's teachings told us to live. If only the real Word (Book of Love) had been able to come through in the first place. Thank you for The Expected One, I'll look forward to your next.

In terms of anger, I've been confined to bed pretty much since last May with a broken arm that wouldn't heal so I am quite familiar with the anger of frustration as well as reactive anger, the anger of fear and, surely, many more. About a week ago I decided to try sending love to those who made me angry, especially my significant other who was having a hard time with having to wait on me, etc. I started doing it on a night when he was being really cranky and negative and was amazed that I saw improvement that same night, soon after I sent him love. I did it when I was angry at him and it also defused my anger within about 30 seconds. I am always looking for unconditional love to come to me. I tried sending some, and it has poured into my life.

Your beautiful book has changed at least one life (mine. of course) for the better. I'm sure there are many others. I can't wait for your next book. As my brother-in-law says to my sister when a deadline looms, "Hit those keys!" Peace to you.
March 11, 2007 @ 5:03 PM

Posted by Evelyn LaDue:

Kathleen, Thank you so much for your book. I grew up Catholic in the 60s and early 70s, and often wondered why the church seemed so anti-female.

I am not a person who holds anger inside. If something is unjust, or not right, and I find I can not do anything to make it better or right, then, yes, I get angry, but I do not hold it. I just keep looking for ways to make it right.
One thing that I heard at church, loud and clear, and have always kept deep in my heart, because it spoke so clearly to my heart was "Love is the greatest commandment" and I let that guide me through everything. It has always worked so well for me that now, in my 50's I must say it is still the driving force of my daily life.

I remember feeling angry about the way the church made me feel about being female, and that it was so frustrating, because deep in my heart, I felt that there was something really huge missing.

I think your book best describes what I always felt was missing. It rings with a truthfulness, much clearer than anything I have been taught or experienced in organized religion. I read and investigate and educate myself always, always looking for that missing "thing."
Perhaps I will feel less angry about religion and feel more love and gratefulness for my spirituality. I feel that I have a bit more light on the pathway. Again, thanks. Agape
Evelyn
March 11, 2007 @ 7:10 PM

Posted by Veronica:

OK. First off, good topic. Turn the other cheek...and walk away. I get very upset with new agers. I hate their habit of blaming the victim all the time. We CO CREATE our reality. As Archie Lame Deer said, you need to put in 50% and Creator will put in the other 50%. In other words, DO SOMETHING. Wishful thinking or sticking one's head in the sand as the Secret would have us believe, does not fix things. I am proactive. I try to change things by trying to do something about it. Like the family in the Bronx who lost 10 members, I made a donation. Don't like the politics of a country? Sponsor a child. If all else fails, the saying "GOD forgive them, they know not what they do" is a favorite. Anger is a tool for change. It is ok to get angry as Jesus got angry and turned over the tables in the temple. Now, the Tibetans tell you to have compassion but to not have idiot compassion in which your efforts are all for naught. You become an enabler in that case. John Trudell says never to trust anyone who can't have anger. Today I will read your book. I am trying to slow it down as I cherish it. I felt so solitary loving Mary for so many years and here you are. We should have an online church of Jesus and Mary. We can call it JAM! The thought of jam makes me happy. lol.

Back to anger, the Navajos have hozho. If you can't change something, change your own perspective of that something. This is how we walk in balance.

Laurie Cabot, witch of Salem, calls new agers, Light Trippers. We walk in duality and once we learn that duality is another illusion, we walk in both realms as they are one. Get angry and do something to make it better. Sometimes people make us angry and if it can't be rectified, I wipe the dust off my feet and walk away.
March 12, 2007 @ 9:25 AM

Posted by Evelyn La Due:

Sometimes turning the other cheek is the best way to handle a situation, and sometimes it is not. And I am all about the victims and supporting them through their time of crisis. I have done that many, many times for people I love, and for total strangers. I know I can turn to any number of people to do the same for me. Perhaps you misunderstood. I don't think that I know enough about new ageism to say that the things I have seen, feel and believe is new age, old age or as ancient as the earth.

What I said is true. I don't hold anger inside. I never have, even as a child, but if I see bigotry, hatred and injustice, I can only lead by example. I have no control over another's feelings. If I can step in and divert, I do and if there is something that I can personally do to show that it does not have to be that way, I do.

I vote, I dontate and I make stands. I do get angry, but I feel anger for anger's sake is destructive. If I can not do something about a problem at that time, I do look for ways to solve it. I don't stick my head in the sand, and I feel my perspective is pretty good.

As you say, sometimes the things that make us angry can't be rectified, and I hate to give up and wipe the dust and walk away. But, sometimes it is the only choice. It would not be unusual for me to return to a situation, more than once, and try again. If this is all new age, it is news to me. I thought it made me a christian. It was, afterall, Jesus who said that Love was the greatest commandment, and I felt it spoke directly to me. It made sense to me. If I am wrong, so be it. I like me pretty good the way I am, I make friends wherever I go, they know that they can count on me through thick and thin, and I am not dumb enough to believe that everyone will like me nor would it bother me alot to find out if someone didn't. We are all here for a reason, and I leave my self open to make a difference where ever possible.

With Christian affection,
Evelyn
March 12, 2007 @ 8:29 PM

Posted by Charlotte:

Hello mrs McGowan, my name is Charlotte. I'm french so my english is horrible! I'm terribly sorry.

I've just read your fantastic book, The Excpected one (who in french is Marie-Madeleine, le livre de l'Elue) and it is really great.
Congratulation!

But at the end of the book, where you thank all the people who help you, you spoke about Marie Madeleine, you said that Jesus saves her when she was poisoned. This poison was created with seven poisons, that's why, on the Bible, it is write that Jesus saves her of the Seven poisons.

(I'm not very good at english so i hope that you understand that i write.)
I've read the Gospel according to Marie Madeleine (it is not recognized by the Vatican) and it is write this:
Marie Madeleine dreams of Jesus and he helps her to go to The Paradise.
The spirit of Marie Madeleine goes to different stage to arrive to peace and Paradise. I would to write an extract of the Gospel who is interesting for me. At a stage, she had to met seven Things.
I right now the extract in french because i haven't got it in english.

[...]
"Elle aperçut le quatrième climat.
Il avait sept manifestation.
- La 1st est Colère
- La 2nd Convoitise
- La 3rd Ignorance
- La 4th Jalousie mortelle
- La 5th Emprise charnelle
- La 6th Sagesse ivre
- La 7th Sagesse rusée
Telles sont les sept manifestations de la Colère qui oppriment l'âme de questions." [...]

I would to help you because for me you are fantastic.
I don't know if it is important, but i think it is maybe interesting.

With a really great affection,
Charlotte o:)
March 16, 2007 @ 10:47 AM

Posted by Kari-Anne:

I believe that there are two kinds of anger. The anger that sits inside of you like a rock weighing you down each day..the kind that drives people mad. Then there is the kind of anger that I think people like Jesus and his wife experienced...the kind that lights a fire under you and drives you to find a way through the dark and into the light. I believe that small changes are better than no changes. I think that as long as you are attempting to help the world progress and givng people and reason to hold on and be consumed by anger than you are not only ridding yourself of YOUR anger everyday but, also acting as an angel to many people. You should be proud Kathleen because I truly believe that you are following your path and letting your anger lead you into the light. Everyone gets angry but, it's how you use this anger that it is important. By the way...I believe that Bono gets angry at the world but just doesn't admit it. There are enough people out there stomping their feet and shaking fists at the state of todays world. I think Bono believes that hugs are a little more important right now.
March 18, 2007 @ 3:20 PM

Posted by Agnès:

First of all, I make a point of excusing me for my English to develop little. I hope that you will be able to decipher my message.
Your book made me happy... happy to see that others think as me! I was always convinced that the women played big role and the history always demonstrated it... history certainly a little falsified. But as you said it is necessary to consider over appearances and at the fact that we want to persuade us. For my part, my anger will have no more league to be when people will become aware that we are blinded(filled) for a long time and that he(it) would be big in our century to pass in the other much more important things, and, so evident. .
Regrettably, I believe that I shall go to join my ancestors with this anger because the world is not ready to change.
My only consolation is to try to bring to people that I like or love and who surround me this small sunbeam which misses them.
My big thought is whom God is in each of us and whom we have all of very big and noble capacities and whom we would make with them of very big things if we indeed wanted to educate ourselves. Quite at least if we took time there!!!
It is entirely up to us every day to try and to progress.

I adhere to no sect, and no particular faith, I have my own ideas which I just wished to make share.
March 29, 2007 @ 1:17 PM

Posted by Sabrina Hudson:

Just so we're clear about the "turn the other cheek" bit - it's been misunderstood for centuries by people who have not looked at it in context. In Jesus' time, Jewish law forbade use of the left hand for anything other than attending to personal matters. Also, there was a difference between striking someone with an open hand or a fist (how one hits someone who is your "equal") and backhanding them (reserved for people who are considered "lower" than the person striking them). When Jesus said to turn the other cheek, what he most likely meant was to play a mind game with your assaulter. Usually, they would be backhanding you across the right cheek. You give them the left cheek and they either have to backhand you with their left hand (breaking cleanliness laws) or strike you with the right hand (declaring their equal). Basically, I think he was more the civil disobedience type than a militant.

Because we have no actual, authenticated first-person account of the whole moneylender event - and I think it was probably Nazarenes "accidentally" tipping over the tables and effectively dispersing the money to the people - I tend to think that Jesus was the kind of person who would get angry but not take it out on others.

Anger is a very healthy human emotion. Beating someone up seems more along the lines of an unenlightened brute than something the alleged Son of God would do.
April 17, 2007 @ 11:44 PM

Posted by claire from Queensland, Australia:

I agree that anger is an incredibly powerful emotion, and channelling that power for a positive outcome has got to be more constructive that harbouring those feeling and turning them inwards.

I do believe that what we 'put out' in the universe, we attract back....or we get back. I try and deal with my anger in a positive way, although I do acknowledge it and try and allow it a certain amount of freedom!

It's important to challenge injustice, whether it's personal or global but I really like Mother Theresas' approach....she would never go on an anti-war rally, I believe, but if it was a pro-peace that was a different thing...(please feel free to correct me if I am wrong). These days I try and turn the negative around and find the other side of it and use my 'powerful anger' for the better...

it's amazing how much you can achieve when you harness that power and how little ground you gain when you let it consume you.
April 26, 2007 @ 2:01 PM

Posted by BIG JOHN:

NEHEMIA GORDON BELIEVES THAT JESUS WAS PROBABLY A KARAITE JEW.www.karaites.info.ANY COMMENTS?(karaites are anti-talmudic jews):)
May 7, 2007 @ 11:33 AM

Posted by Kerri:

Hi from Kerri,

I so enjoyed meeting you. I agree that anger often does not originate from me/you. I believe you can walk into a field of it and suddenly find that you are feeling an emotion that is more intense and/or different from what you were feeling a few moments ago. It is hard to stay conscious all the time and remember to say, "Hey, I wasn't feeling this way five minutes ago. What is different?"

I so enjoyed meeting you and everyone in Boston!
May 15, 2007 @ 7:26 PM

Posted by Debra Masters:

People move me to compassion because of a vision GOD gave me. A co-worker was being chastised in front of some of the staff where I worked. He was in emotional pain in his life, and this extra pain was almost too much for him. And in that moment, GOD opened the chest of this man in my vision and showed me his heart. It was made of pure crystal and there were cracks running through it, from the small to the large, from various hurts in his life. GOD said, "Be very careful with the heart of man, you can't know if the words you say will be the ones to shatter it..." This insight has tempered my fiery red-headed temper so many times. :)
May 17, 2007 @ 1:18 PM

Posted by Euclydes M.F:

O Segredo do Anel (o legado de MARIA MADALENA) FOI PARA MIM UM ESPETACULO,MARAVILHOSO QUANDO COMEÇEI A LER.A MARIA MADALENA ERA UMA PESSOA COMUM QUE VEVIA NA EPOCA DE COFLITOS E PECONSEITOS COM A MULHERES.
A FORÇA QUE ELA TEM ATÉ HOJE,SOPRE A IGREJA.É UMA FORÇA PURA QUE VAI APARECENDO AOS POUCOS.
OTIMO TRABALHO.:)
May 20, 2007 @ 4:29 AM

Posted by Jesseca:

I just finished reading your book and I have to say that it left me with more questions than answers. I enjoyed it thoroughly but it has led to wonder what in history IS truth, if anything? As I read the afterward I became more and more curious as to how you came by your information etc. I've been raised as a very strict Christian and asking questions here isn't the best way to get answers :P I'm sure you get tons of people leaving you things like this, but if you could give me any information to go off of to start my own research, it would be much appreciated.
Thanks-
Jesseca
May 22, 2007 @ 7:17 PM

Posted by carine:

Anger,the hardest feeling to control.I think that it can be useful at leats when it is used properly.Everybody feels anger coz it's a human attitude, what you have to do is control it and use it in a useful way.
I hope it's understandable, i'm not an english speaker so i do my best.i wanted to talk with you coz i have just finish you're book and i'm very interested in what you can say about this subject.i must confess that i'm not a christian and i don't beleive in god, but your story keeps running on my mind.
May 23, 2007 @ 10:18 AM

Posted by Tim:

The most important aspect of anger is responsibility for me. Usually, my anger is intially directed at someone or something other than myself and as I figure it out more often than not my anger subsides as I take reponsibility for it. With responsibility comes the decision whether or not to act on that anger.

The hug/punch relationship for me is directed at frustration toward the world I live in and my ability to change it either by hugging or punching, both legitimate responses. But, I guess my point is much of the world we live in is what we (I) have created or accepted for myself and as I have aged I would say the more I stay focused on continuously interacting with people in an honest and ethical manner the less terrible the world seems. I guess in a roundabout way I am advocating hug...but be careful sometimes the hug can terribly manipulative, especially when given with an agenda.
Finally, toleration must enter the discussion because no matter what your response is hug or punch the third response to anger is inaction. Inaction is based on what we can tolerate, if you find yourself angry alot you are probably not hugging or punching and should start!!!!

Finally and most importantly!!!!

I "loved the book" and am waiting patiently for "The Book of Love"!!!!:)
May 31, 2007 @ 8:26 AM

Posted by lisa:

I think part of the problem with anger is not the emotion it self but how the world as a whole uses it, not just the individual. If you use it out of respect and caring it can be used to realize wrong in the world and put greedy or power hungry people in their place making them realize they aren't the only one that is important but that we all have a place in this world. Or you can use it to detrimant anger as in the world is against me which leads to selfishness and greed. Look at the worlds leaders there are thoughs who work toward helping others and giving people equality and thoughs that let their people suffer so they can live high off the world or hog whichever phrase you prefer. Hence in history when women have been seen as less then human even to this day. Like so many have written if you use or anger to see the problem use the anger to fuel the solution. Make them see that if you give the right tools all can live well and all can feel like they received a hug positive breeds positive negative breeds negative take that deep breath and show them that respect breeds like. don't act to be liked and watch those who act to be liked. Their the ones that usually are looking out for themselves or need to be shown respect and what it can do.
May 31, 2007 @ 5:53 PM

Posted by BL:

The "turn the other cheek" may have another meaning. In saying it, Jesus' followers would have known that the left hand was regarded as unclean. So, if I were to hit you on the right cheek, I would have to use my right hand. The only way I could comfortably do this if you were facing me would be if I hit you with the back of my hand. Everyone that would be listening in Jesus' time knew that hitting another person with the back of the hand was a gesture that had a specific meaning in their culture and was used only in specific situations. Only people with more power would back-hand people with less power. For example, masters would backhand slaves, Romans would backhand Jews, husbands would backhand wives, etc. Now a person couldn't really be physically harmed being hit in this way, it was for humiliation. It means, "you stay in your place, which is beneath me." Now imagine that you are still facing me, and you turn your left cheek to me. Unless I contort my arm into a pretzel, I can no longer backhand you. If I strike you again, I will have to use a fist or the front of my hand. Everyone listening to Jesus would know that this gesture was used only between equals. Thus, by turning your left cheek, you are saying to the oppressor, "I am not beneath you and you may not humiliate me. I may not be able to stop you from hitting me, but you can't take away my dignity." (Taken from a passage from:Understanding Difficult Scriptures in a Healing Way.) To me, this demonstrates that Jesus was a conscientions objector, that used creative non violence to stand up with Dignity, and to help others stand up for themselves. I think righteous anger certainly can be a valuable emotion. In my opinion, we are given ALL of our emotions to use as markers and signposts to get our attention. It is what we do with that emotional information that would categorize our actions as positive or negative. So, keep all your emotions, and cherish them all....they are all to help us
June 3, 2007 @ 6:58 PM

Posted by Roberta Hartlove:

For me,I always fight FOR, and avoid (like the plague) fighting against. Fighting FOR is creative , channels anger toward positive action, and is loving, compassionate and giving.
Fighting against is destructive, futile, a political power play, hateful and therefore harmful.
The key to fighting FOR is to treat each and everyone with respect, and asserting responsibility for my feelings, words and actions. Also, I NEVER allow myself to feel morally superior to ANYONE, since from my perspective every great evil throughout history (from the Inquisition, to the Holocaust, to Darfur) has been perpetrated by those who believed themselves to be morally superior.Zealots are the scariest!
July 8, 2007 @ 1:34 PM

Posted by andre:

RE-SU-RE-TIO
RE-DEI-RE=DIO
JOANA MAGDALENA DE GLORIA PLENA, PLENA DE AMOR-EL-DIO-SIGNOR
NULLA-SI CREA
TUTTO-SI TRASFORMA
NULLA-SI DISTRUGGE
LE TUE VISIONI SONO NULLA, IO SONO L'ELETTO, PORTO IN ME ANCHE LA MIA DONNA, MAGDALENA JOANNETTI, CHE TU CI CREDA O NO, SO CHI E' IL CRISTO..... SE CI CREDI DAMMI RISPOSTA QUI E TI RICONTATTERO'.

BUENA SUERTE....
July 21, 2007 @ 2:11 AM

Posted by Mary:

I LOVED "The Expected One!"--I've always been suspicious that my Catholic upbringing did give me the whole story!
Meanwhile, about ANGER--my mother, a devout Anglican had a wonderful saying--God says we must LOVE one another all the time; however, He didn't say we had to necessarily LIKE them all the time!" I am a nurse and my job asks me to care for ALL mankind--once, I had to give a shot to a murderer. I said, Mom, I should have blunted the needle! and she said, but then that would have lowered you to his level.
My son expressed his anger when a high school buddy of his died in Iraq--I want to go over there and kill those bastards! and I said, take that anger and CREATE something that will keep boys from getting killed like a satellite that can target so specifically, no one needs to send our boys to do the work....
Anger is the motivating emotion--Lord knows, when I'm feeling overwhelmed with it, my house is usually at it's cleanest!!
Mary:P
July 27, 2007 @ 10:17 AM

Posted by Carol Pare:

Bravo Kathleen for this blog! Anger is part of our human makeup. We can channel our anger into something positive. We definately need more love and forgiveness in all of our lives as it is an important step to healing. I agree with you that sometimes we would like to punch the world out with all that is happening in our world, and other times give it a big big hug hug. Thank-you for what you are doing and that your share with us your readers and believers in the Nazarene Way. A big thanks also to Easa and Mary for the truth needs to be heard. You are truly blessed and I'm so glad you are a descendant of Easa and Mary. I can't wait for your new book "The Book of Love"

Love be with you always,

Carol
October 18, 2007 @ 10:07 AM

Posted by Rachel:

hi..i had been reading your letter and honestly im amazed by it..
October 26, 2007 @ 4:43 AM

Posted by María Bonilla:

Dear Mrs. McGowan: I am going to write you in spanish. I speak very well french but my english, for this letter it is not well enough.
Please forgive me for that.
Me llamo María, soy aries, nacida el 10 de abril de 1954, día Sábado de Dolores, vísperas del Domingo de Resurrección a las 22.30 p.m.
Siempre he hecho una colección de unicornios, calaveras y ángeles.
Nací católica pero estoy alejada de la práctica de la Iglesia
Católica, aunque soy creyente profunda en Jesús y sus enseñanzas.
Siempre he tenido una fuerte inclinación por Dumas, por las leyendas del Grial, por la Edad Media y me eduqué en Francia. Siempre también leí y me divertí mucho con Linda Goodman. Leí casi por casualidad El código Da Vinci. Busqué entonces El enigma sagrado y me impactó aún más. También leí a Margaret Starbird. Fui a Chartres y seguí el camino hasta el Mont Saint Michel. Recientemente encontré su libro La Esperada y lo leí. Yo he tenido un par de
visiones de María Magdalena y he dedicado los últimos años a hacer una investigación sobre ella. Soy novelista, actriz y directora teatral. Mi página web es: mariabonilla.com
En mis novelas ya publicadas en español, hay muchas referencias de las que no tenía conciencia, y que he empezado a entender, a la misma, María Magdalena y a la Dame a la licorne, por ejemplo. Si usted habla español, me gustaría un día enviárselas.
Conozco el Languedoc, pero entre mis planes está, visitar todos los lugares sagrados para ella por puro interés en saber de ella más. Alguna vez me gustaría conocerla a usted y contarle de todos los puntos en contacto y similitudes que encontré entre su libro, su vida (y la de Maureen) y la mía. Un abrazo, gracias por su libro. María.
October 28, 2007 @ 10:15 PM

Posted by Robin Williams Australia:

Long before i read your book i knew in my soul that Mary was the wife of Jesus. Anger brings enourmous energy physically and mentally to deal with situations. It also motivates the brain to think outside all revious boundaries creating a cornicopia of idea's to deal with a situation. With these new thoughts/idea's we can use which is most beneficial to any given situation. It is when we react instead of responding to anger that things go sour. Remember that when we attempt to change challenging behaviour in others it gets worse before getting better because others use more extreme behaviour in an attempt to get their own way. It is at this point it is crucial to "Stand Firm" in what we know is right, then things will slowly begin to improve. with love, forgiveness and acceptance the world can be a better place.
November 30, 2007 @ 2:01 PM

Posted by mike:

This is exactly me...all of it lol!!! I second what Michael said '' I want to save the world but at times I want to shatter it'' This is so freeing because it says that it's ok to be angry...we just need to learn to work with it. None of us will get rid of it overnight and as has been pointed out even Easa had his moments of rage and as has also been pointed out that's what makes him even more accessible to all of us. Turning over tables lol, it reminds me when at school, I threw a desks across the room...that was anger lol. So great to know that spirituality doesn't require you to not be angry but to transform it into something positive. Even Easa knew that's not always easy and just knowing that makes me stronger.
January 31, 2008 @ 8:51 PM

Posted by José Luis:

Estimada Kathleen.
En su novela "La Esperada" Ud. se refiere a La Profecía de Orval y cita un texto: "Marie de Negre elegirá el momento oportuno para la llegada de la Esperada. La que nace del cordero pascual cuando el día y la noche son iguales, la que es hija de la resurrección. La portadora del Sangral recibirá la llave tras presenciar el Día Negro de la Calavera. Se convertirá en la nueva Pastora y nos mostrará el Camino."
¿Podría comentarme Ud. el origen de esta profecía? ¿Quien la redacto, en que año y lugar?

Fraternalmente
José Luis Monserrat
February 2, 2008 @ 6:48 AM

Posted by Jenny:

Righteous anger is a catlyst for change. It's up to the individual to make the change for the good. Yes, Jesus was rightfully angry at the moneylenders. He had the intention to change that for the better. Just as any sane person would get angry seeing the state of the world today. The economy's crap, health insurance is difficult to get, we're up to our eyeballs in a pointless war, genocide in Darfur, and that's just a small example! We should be furious! But what makes all the difference is what ACTION we choose to take. What can every individual DO to make the world a better place? Whether it's a donation of money, time or spirit, the righteous anger must propel us forward to positive action!
A fellow warrior in love,
Jenny
February 28, 2008 @ 1:51 PM

Posted by Lauri Schmidt:

I'm anxiously awaiting the next book.....any news on its release date?

:)
March 17, 2008 @ 1:03 PM

Posted by Bobbie Langford:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KATHLEEN
It is with great honor that I have the privilege to wish you a happy birthday and that you are continuing your work in the solidarity that you need.
Thank you for all your hard work and devotion.
May your special day bring more meaning than ever.
H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y
March 22, 2008 @ 10:41 AM

Posted by Mary Jane:

I just finished your book and it felt so true! Now I understand a lot of things in my life that have been a huge source of misery and puzzlement. It also fits in with a vision that I had in 1985. I think that you wrote the book because God intended for this to finally become general knowledge.

As far as anger goes - it is always a mistake to respond with anger when you are attacked for who you are. Jesus said to turn the other cheek and there is tremendous strength in that. Loving your enemy is not weakness; it is the strongest response in the world. Nothing that the enemy does to you can hurt you in any way when you have Jesus in your heart.
June 8, 2008 @ 2:47 PM

Posted by Rhovie:

Hello am from Philippines I have read your book the expected one I find it very interesting and it uplifted my spirit you know...I've seen my dormate reading the book and after she read I want to borrow it in our library but I didn't find it and it is not out when I check in our directory...my dormate also said she tends to find it but cannot find until now that the classes starts I still long to read it and thanks God I saw it at last...when I read the book really I cannot imagine the truth...I always ask in my self that partly it is right...but it didn't denounce my faith to Him...and I do recognize Mary Magdalene...thank you for sharing your knowledge and history...
June 26, 2008 @ 7:09 PM

Posted by Lyonness:

Kathleen, thanks for your comments on anger. Yes wouldn't it just be wonderful to walk around smiling. Like the Lights are on and nobody's home. Well I see that alot anyway. To be human is to feel anger over the unjustices, we see in the world. If we were perfect, I suppose we wouldn't continue to be here on our journey. The New Ageist, just like to pretend they are never angry. Sorry, but that would have to be too human. A great large amount of us work on our Spirituality, but that doesn't mean we are not Human Beings. Yes we can control our anger, but that doesn't mean we don't get p.o.'d sometimes. God Bless:)
July 10, 2008 @ 11:56 PM

Posted by Char:

Kathleene, You are so right. Love and Art will save and change the world.
I vow to stand with you and Mary in unity to carry on her love and faith.
I believe that together ,all things are possible. I also believe as you do in the power of prayer. Mary's prayers are still heard to this day. I am blessed to have you in my life and I am grateful for your passion in unconditional love for all humans. You are an amazing woman and a leader by your examples evey single day as Jesus and Mary are...Still.
Peace and Always...Only Love Char.
July 29, 2008 @ 6:16 PM

Posted by Emily Anne Oliver:

Bless you Kathleen. I have been on The Way since I was very, very young. You and your work have confirmed so much of what I knew/know instinctively. On 8/8/08 I wrote a poem I wish to share.

I am
Innocent and pure
Complete
Satisfied
Ascended
Body-free
Ego-less
Formless
Mindless
Bliss
Forever and Ever, Amen.

I am a professor of Speech Communication and I am grateful that where I teach, I am allowed to fulfill my soul purpose: I teach Sacred Communication, which means that I teach my students to use the gift of language with which we have been blessed for good, for upliftment, for tolerance, for peace and in service of LOVE.

Thank you for the work that you do and for your generosity of spirit.

With sincere love,

Emily Anne
November 14, 2008 @ 10:52 AM

Posted by Helena:

Thank you for honoring your anger. True love is loving everything that you are -- even your negative emotions. Those feelings are not the problem, it is the lies we tell ourselves when we are in those states. In loving my anger, I honor the fact that there is obviously a strong need that is not being met. What is that? How can I most constructively address that need?

That will usually bring me into a new level of anger -- the anger for what it is I need or want. With the anger for meeting the need, I can channel it more constructively.

And it is important to remember that taking the time to really listen to ones self when angry is the key to finding a great solution. Anger is passion when used well and an important part of our life force energy and self expression!
December 28, 2008 @ 2:31 AM

Posted by Diana:

Kathleen.......Its a pleasure to read your book and your blog. Although I was not raised Catholic, I was raised as a minister's daughter and actually converted to Judaism in my thirties.
I am more of a spiritual believer than any label you could place on me. I have my own set of beliefs and have much respect for the beauty in the faith of Jesus and his Jewish understanding of life. He was truly to be the Torah made manifest in living instruction. My comment to your blog is that to me it has been obvious if you read the story that we have been given about Jesus that he was HUMAN. And God wanted to have a HUMAN experience with all manner of emotion being experienced. Are we responsible to maintain our balance? You bet we are but part of the joy of being alive is to discover our emotions and find the power in them and employ them for building Heaven on Earth! Jesus said that the meek would inherit the earth, not the WEAK. Being meek to me is to have learned from experiences in our lives and find the wisdom to create the world we really want to live in. Being meek and humble doesn't mean you have to be *anger free*. We ought to have some anger to be able to stand up and get off our ports of comfort and re-define life. Life is more than existence. Living as you know is a most precious gift and gratitude is the greatest way to give back to OUR CREATOR. So, I love that you shared this with others and I am grateful for your courage to push forward the veil and reveal the injustice that has been perpetrated on the DIVINE FEMININE aspect of God and those women who have exemplified that in their being.
If women do not become *pissed off* about the garbage that has been done to the world and especially to the children, then WHO is to save our beautiful creation? To answer the question, I want to give the whole world a good straight talk after a massage.....hugs included!One more comment. In the book you describe things in Jerusalem that I relate to as I have ALWAYS been so clear and so sure in Jerusalem more than anywhere else on this earth. My first time there was in 93 and I was also there in 97, 04 and 06 and 07. I lived at the Dead Sea for four months and frequented Jerusalem. What an amazing experience of my life!
Diana
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February 1, 2009 @ 3:11 PM

Posted by Debby Bergin:

Thank you Kathleen, for opening my mind. I admit that I do not attend any church, for I have always believed that if God did exist, he would listen, no matter where you are. I believe that all people should be treated as equals, after all, we are all born from a mother and a father, no matter what race or religion we belong to. I look forward to reading "The Book of Love" and passing it on to family and friends as I will, "The Expected One". If every person treated others as they would want to be treated, and forgave openly, there would be no wars, most of which are fought in the name of so-called religion.

Thank you!
February 20, 2009 @ 6:06 AM

Posted by Christie De Vries:

Big HUGS for you Kathleen....but I get what you mean about anger at the injustices in the world....I too get too angry about many things, but I'm trying hard to channel that energy into effecting change in any way I can, no matter how small.
Thanks again, Sister...
Namaste
Christie De Vries
March 30, 2009 @ 6:42 AM

Posted by Brigitta:

Dear Kathleen.

The way to manage your anger is by loving the offender...doing good to them and praying for Jesus' love to overflow you towards the undeserving and asking for blessings upon the same ones from the Lord as the only safe place in every circumstance is Jesus' love daily overflowing you...it is not what they do..rather what you do that counts.
May 23, 2009 @ 2:35 AM

Posted by Heather:

Dearest Kathleen,

Moments ago I finished reading The Book of Love. From the time I picked it up I was overcome with such a feeling of reverence and awe. I'm sure you've heard this before! Even my 11 year old daughter would walk by the book, and with such reverence, pick it up in her hands and say, "Mommy, this book cover is so incredible...I LOVE it so much." (should you have a promotional poster or postcard, I know a young girl who would adore one!)

I can't even begin to tell you the strange "remembrances" I had while reading this book. For as long as I can remember I have always wanted to live in Tuscany...specifically Assisi. This is really an unfounded longing, as I have never been there, but after reading your book, perhaps understand more clearly, that I may have lived there many lifetimes before.

I wanted to say Thank You and Bless You for your profound and magnificent gift as a writer of the Divine Feminine Spirit, and I have, with great honour, added your link to my website. I have ordered The Expected One and am looking so forward to reading it soon.

With Love,
Heather Fraser
Sacred Scribe
www.heatherfraser.com
August 24, 2009 @ 12:20 PM

Posted by Joy:

I created a labyrinth in my backyard during the Fall of 2008. Miracles and other phenomena are constantly happening since doing this. I seem to be thrown onto a path to solve this great mystery. I feel I am being guided on this journey. Your books are intriguing as they cause me to ask more questions. Why are certain people chosen to be guided into solving these mysteries? Is this my past guiding me to my future? I have never written a book in my life and now I've been inspired to write one. Thank you for blazing the trail giving the message to follow your heart and passion at all times!
September 21, 2009 @ 8:26 AM

Posted by Elizabeth:

I had a very enlightening experience with anger that I would like to share. I was at the beach with my new husband and my step daughter. When my fiance's back was turned, my step daughter spit on me. It was such a horrific experience, in that the 19 year old, with the face of an angel and a normally sweet dispostion would act out in that way. I waited a little while, and then walked to the edge of the water to talk to Yeshua. He guided me through a very simple exercise. I pictured the young girl in my mind, and all of her good qualities. Then I kept picturing her face and telling her that I loved her regardless. The more I repeated my love, the more the effects of her actions subsided. I became calm, I was at peace, and I felt elevated. As long as we are here, we are human, and I think it is important to be able to transform our anger and utilize it in a postive way. I believe it is a place of strength when harnessed and directed with love.
November 4, 2009 @ 10:30 AM

Posted by Dea Brasgalla:

Hi Everyone, Anger is a biggie for me too...except for righteous anger..and I feel that God does allow one that emotion cause with it comes some type of action whether it is prayer, writing to the editor, or signing a petition...Of late, I've been surrounding the recipient with The White Light of The Holy Spirit and let God handle he/she or them...Love and Light, Dea
November 13, 2009 @ 9:38 AM